July 2, 2007

Saying ” I am sorry “

Saying " I am sorry " is never easy. Many people would rather lose a good friend, stop talking to a relative, or bear the pain of being guilty all their lives, than apologize. We all make mistakes, some were really unintentional, some due to poor judgement at the point of time. Learning the correct way to express our sincere apology will help strengthen our relationship and allows healing. Making an apology isn’t really that difficult,

Start by :

Knowing the reason for your apology. Not knowing why you apologize will most likely make you commit the same mistake again.
Act quickly. Delaying an apology could make things worse. An exception will be to hold back till tempers and emotions have cooled down.
Describe your actions that was wrong clearly and briefly.
Saying sorry with sincerity. Most people could tell whether you are genuinely sorry.
Avoid using words such as " but " , " because " which indicates the other party were partly to be blame, this could make matters worse.
Never sound sarcastic or have hidden messages in you apologies.
Tell them how you will solve the problem, this show the other party you are trying your best to make peace.

Apologize in person. Do not make use of emails or text messages.

There is nothing wrong with making a mistake. But there is certainly something wrong with not admitting it.

Filed under Inspirational by Jeffery Seah